Monday, October 29, 2007

girlfriends

Today, with my husband a couple thousand miles (give or take a few) away, I am grateful for girlfriends. And I am also wishing that my girlfriends lived closer to me. But at least we have phones!

Yesterday I talked to two of my dear friends on the phone:

Miss Jennifer V


and

Mrs. Emily W


Isn't girl talk great? I really do think it is vital. Women need women. There is just something we get from each other that isn't possible to attain from men. It's sort of mystical. Or maybe I'm just lonely. :-) Whatever it is I sure am happy to have been blessed with amazing friends. And several of them I've known since childhood. Emily here has been in my life for more than 20 years! That is pretty darn amazing, if you ask me. And Jennifer is part of a group of girls from college that I know I will always keep track of. Living together can create some long-lasting bonds.

Since getting married, I haven't made any new really great girlfriends. I haven't had a lot of motivation because I already have such fantastic friends. Plus, these first months of marriage I have been very happy to just be with Jared. But there are those times when I wish I had someone close by that I could call up and chat with or go shopping with. There are wonderful girls at church who I hope I get to know better, but I still don't feel that close to anyone. I feel like those type of friendships take time. I don't have children yet, so I don't have fellow mommy friends. And the girls I know without kids all work like me and are busy.

Right now, I'm really grateful for those phone calls and blog posts and chats that keep me connected to all my friends far away. I sure love technology! Thank you Jennifer and Emily for keeping me company last night. I love you both! And to all the rest of my friends out there-- call me! I love you all!


10 comments:

  1. ahhh. me too. i love that we have the www to help us all stay connected no matter what different directions life takes us.

    three cheers for girlfriends!

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  2. i was thinking about this yesterday at church. i have no friends in my ward. granted i've only been there a few weeks, but it sure would be nice to have someone to giggle with in relief society...and i don't even like girls that much!

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  3. Exactly. I am the RS music director so I always am doing stuff before and after RS and have to sit in the front to lead the music. So basically I don't get any chat time during RS, which I realize is part of the problem.

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  4. I think it is a lot harder to make new girlfriends after you are married. I don't know what it is...something about having less motivation to put yourself out there, and also feeling like you have to be friends as a couple...its just different. Anyway, I am glad for girlfriends too!

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  5. Amen Kat! Loved this post. I think I would go crazy without my girls. Loves!

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  6. You have to admit, though... I can pull off "girltalk" much better than most guys. But I agree that there is something incomparable about girlfriends. From my outsider's perspective, at least. ;-) Love you! I HATE being apart!

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  7. I will chat girl talk with you any old day. We definitely have some great conversations! You are one of the most positive people I know. You always bring me up. Loves.
    Jennifer

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  8. oh, i'm so there with you. i have fun gal pals, but it's hard to get very close to people when you all have your own lives and husbands and kids and jobs. that's one thing that i miss about having female roommates!

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  9. It's so true. I have a husband who, like Jared, can pull of "girltalk" pretty well, and in general, I feel like he really gets me. But on certain things I think you just have to have two X chromosomes to GET it!

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  10. My husband's not so great at girl talk, though he gives a valiant (and dear) effort, so I most definitely need my girlfriends to dish about the feminine issues with. I'm so glad you're one of mine -- I love our twenty+ year friendship. Miss you. Love you.

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