Thursday, March 13, 2008

random pretties

I think these shoes from Delia*s are adorable. So Springy and whimsical.
Only I'm paranoid to buy new shoes in case my feet grow during pregnancy. Has anyone actually had that happen to them? It would be tragic to a shoe lover like me who already owns so many.


Someone needs to buy this dress. It is on sale right now at J.Crew. Still not cheap, I'll warn, but cheaper. And you get another 20% off. If I wasn't pregnant, I'd be sorely tempted.
I love the polka dots, don't you? And the ruffle. It's so lady like.


How cute are these?
I'm loving all the cute baby clothes from Kate Quinn Organics.
They are simple and colorful and look so cozy.
I want everything on the website.

Tuesday, March 11, 2008

first anniversary


One year and one day ago Jared and I were married. It was a beautiful, crisp March day in Utah. We got to celebrate with wonderful family and friends. It was perfect.

This weekend we went to Atlanta where Jared was presenting a paper at a conference. We stayed with Jared's cousin, Jonathan and his wife Kristy and their 6 beautiful kids! They were so nice and welcoming. It was really great to get to know them better. The only downside was that it was COLD! It snowed! In Georgia!

Sunday we headed back north and stayed the night in Asheville, NC. Asheville is in the western mountains of North Carolina. It is a popular spot to visit, especially in the fall when the leaves have all changed colors. Even this time of year, it was still beautiful. We stayed in a delightful Bed and Breakfast to celebrate our marriage turning one year old.


The best part was the tub!


The bed was pretty sweet too. As is the darling boy posing for this picture.


It was such a lovely weekend. We had hours to talk in the car. We got to see family. And we got to treat ourselves to a little night of luxury. I truly do love my husband more everyday. I am so blessed to be married to him. My heart is tender and full when I think of all he does for me. He showers me with love each day. I love coming home to him. He is my home.


Sunday, March 9, 2008

19 weeks

How your baby's growing: Your baby weighs about 8 1/2 ounces, and he measures 6 inches, head to bottom — about the size of a large heirloom tomato. His arms and legs are in the right proportions to each other and the rest of his body now. His kidneys continue to make urine, and the hair on his scalp is sprouting. This is a crucial time for sensory development: Your baby's brain is designating specialized areas for smell, taste, hearing, vision, and touch.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

photo updates

Here is the latest photo update of my growing bump. It definitely looks bigger than it did a couple weeks ago. But from straight on I still don't really look that pregnant. I'm starting to feel like it more and more though. This morning I woke up to Baby Asher punching me or head butting me or something. It was the strongest I had felt it yet. I love it!


And remember a couple weeks ago I said I got something fun at Costco? Well I finally got around to getting a photo for you all to see. Check out our new dishes!

We both LOVE them! We actually never got dishes for our wedding. Most people gave us money/gift certificates and then I couldn't decide what I wanted. So we've been using totally mismatched dishes for the past year! Well, we were walking out of Costco and both of us stopped in our tracks when we saw these. We loved both colors so we got a set of each! I am especially picky about bowls, and these are the perfect shape and size. So fun!

Tuesday, March 4, 2008

it's a...



BOY!!!!

Yep, we having a boy, and we are SO excited! I've always wanted a boy first for some reason and Jared really wanted a boy. Last week Isaac called and asked Jared, "Daddy, when are we going to know if I am getting a little brother?" How cute is that? I couldn't be happier that Isaac is getting a little brother.

After the ultrasound technician zoomed in on the goods and declared the baby a boy, I asked her if she's ever wrong. She said she would tell us if she was unsure, but that she is 99.9% sure this is a boy. And I have to say it was quite obvious that we are having a boy!

It was also really cool to see the heart and brain and spine. He was moving all over like crazy. He is a very active little baby. I've been feeling him a lot more. Jared was even able to feel him kick yesterday. Everything looked really good and the technician said he weighs 9 ounces which is right on track. She put my due date as August 1--2 days earlier than before. But she said my doctor probably won't officially change it since it's only two days difference. I'm just glad she didn't move it back any and that this boy is growing like he should.

And now I'm sure you all are wondering what we are going to name him. Well, I won't keep it a secret. We have had this named picked out since before we were married. We both love it! Ready?


Asher Gabriel

I decided I wanted to name my son Asher after I read My Name is Asher Lev by Chaim Potok. And we just both like Gabriel a lot. So there ya go!

Monday, March 3, 2008

exhibition

On Saturday our church had a talent exhibition. They called it "A Night at the MET--Mormons Exhibiting their Talents". The first part of the program was in the chapel and performers did Church and classical music numbers. I was quite impressed with some of the talent. Then there was an intermission and in half of the gym was a visual arts display--paintings, photography, that kind of thing. Then the last part of the program was in the other half of the gym and was all secular music. This one little boy totally blew us all away singing. He was probably 8 years old and had this fantastic voice. It was a really fun night. And I even decided to participate by displaying a few photographs. These have all made appearances before around here, but for all you new readers, I thought I'd post them again anyway.

New Mexico Wild Flowers, August 2007


Pioneer Day Grace, Utah, July 2007


Utah Mountains, July 2007


Jared in dry creek bed, North Carolina, October 2007


North Carolina Woods, October 2007

At the risk of tooting my own horn a little, I have to share something that totally made my night. After the program, Jared and I gathered up my photos to take home and were walking out of the gym when this man stopped us. He said, "Oh I haven't seen these yet. Will you show them to me?" Of course I did and he wanted me to explain each photo--where I took it, etc. He was really complimentary. Turns out he is a professional photographer. He has done some workshops and such for different things. It really made me feel good to have someone who knows what they are talking about compliment my photos. Because I am FAR from a professional. I've taken all of one photography class 4 years ago and don't even have a nice camera. I have so much to learn. It felt so good to be validated like that by someone who knows his stuff.

Sunday, March 2, 2008

18 weeks

How your baby's growing: Head to bottom, your baby is approximately 5 1/2 inches long (about the length of a bell pepper) and she weighs almost 7 ounces. She's busy flexing her arms and legs — movements that you'll likely start noticing more and more. Her blood vessels are visible through her thin skin and her ears are now in position and stand out from her head. Myelin (a protective covering) is beginning to form around her nerves, a process that will continue for a year after she's born. If you're having a girl, her uterus and Fallopian tubes are formed and in place. If your baby is a boy, his genitals are noticeable, though he may hide them from you during an ultrasound.

This week has been really good. I'm feeling the baby move more and more. The feelings are getting more distinct now too. And I swear I actually saw a couple kicks the other day when I was lying in bed! Tuesday is U-day! I hope this babe cooperates.

Friday, February 29, 2008

rediscovery

Last night I rediscovered my love of cinnamon toast. It had been years since our last encounter. I don't know how I lived so long without that butter, sugar, cinnamon, bread combo that is a delight to my taste buds! And cinnamon toast is so fast and easy too. Seriously, what is not to love? I had it for a bedtime snack last night and again this morning. I see a dangerous trend starting.

Wednesday, February 27, 2008

the business of being born

We watched the documentary last night, and I highly recommend it to all of you. It will definitely open your eyes about how birth happens in this country. Here are my thoughts on it.

The purpose of the film is not to push home births. I honestly think the purpose of the film is to show that there are options out there besides a highly medicalized birth. Because the truth is, the majority of births are low-risk and don't need a lot of medical intervention. Ricki Lake, the executive producer of the film, decided to make it after having her first son in the hospital with lots of intervention and her second son at home with a midwife. She felt that the second birth was so much more fulfilling. She called it a gift to her son. Again, she didn't make the film to say that having a home birth is better. She wanted to show that women do have choices. And that having a natural birth is a very different experience than being drugged up. She wants to show that birth can be more.

The film talks about some pretty scary stuff that went on in obstetrics. In the first part of the 20th century the common practice in hospitals was to knock women out during labor and strap them to a bed. It was called twilight sleep. Here is the definition from MedicineNet.com:

Twilight sleep: A term applied to the combination of analgesia (pain relief) and amnesia (loss of memory) produced by a mixture of morphine and scopolamine ("scope") given by a hypodermic injection (an injection under the skin). The mixture of the two drugs created a state in which the woman, while responding somewhat to pain, did not remember it after delivering her baby. Twilight sleep was once in vogue in obstetrics.

The women had to be tied down because they would thrash around while in this state. They would have no memory of giving birth.

Other crazy stuff that used to be routine was x-raying pregnant mothers to check the size of the baby. This went on until they realized it gave the babies cancer. In the 50's mothers were given a drug that caused children to be born without developed arms and legs. And even all through the 90's a drug given to mothers was discovered to be causing major problems. (Sorry I don't remember the specifics. I think it was ruptured uteruses.)

Another point the movie makes is how disturbing the sky-rocketing cesarean rate is in the US. Right now the national average is 1/3 of all births are c-sections. This is much higher than other developed nations. Many believe there are several reasons for this. One is that OBs are mostly trained surgeons and therefore feel more comfortable doing a section than a natural birth. Many OBs very rarely have experienced a natural birth. Another reason is the ridiculous malpractice situation in this country that makes doctors very scared of being sued. They have way more control in a c-section.

Also, there has been an increase in elective c-sections. Women choose to go through major surgery instead of pushing a baby out. Some of the reasons I've heard are the convenience of scheduling the birth, not messing things up "down there", and even doing the c-section a little early in order to lessen the chances of stretch marks. Crazy if you ask me.

There is also evidence that all the interventions common in hospitals today increase the likelihood of a cesarean. The way it is explained in the movie is this: the mother is given an epidural early which slows down labor. So then she is given pitocin to get things going again. Pitocin makes contractions really hard, long, and close together. This puts stress on the baby and usually requires more pain relief. Or it can start with a woman being induced with pitocin and then given the epidural, etc. What happens is this slippery slope occurs where with every intervention, more in often required. And then the baby is under stress and things aren't progressing quickly enough, and so a c-section is given.

Of course, this is not the case with every c-section. There are many emergency c-sections that save the life of the baby and mother and couldn't have been prevented. In fact, the director of the film ends up having an emergency cesarean because her baby is breech and she went into labor 5 weeks early. It turned out that the placenta had stopped working, so her baby had stopped growing. He was only about 3 pounds. Usually, if this condition happens, the baby is stillborn, so they were really lucky.

One thing I thought was interesting is that the director said afterwards that she didn't feel like she gave birth. She felt like she was in a car accident, went into surgery, and was given a baby afterwards. She described the whole thing as being very surreal and that it was hard not to be able to bond with her baby right away. I'm curious if any of you who have had c-sections felt this way.

Another thought provoking point was made by a French doctor they interviewed. He says that the hormones released during natural labor and birth are what help us to bond to our babies right away. He said that if you take that away, especially when a c-section is done, you are taking away the "love hormones" that cause that bonding. He said, for example, that if you give a monkey a c-section, the monkey will want nothing to do with her baby. Obviously, we are human and love our babies however they come to us. I do not think that a mother who births naturally loves her baby more than a mother who has a c-section or a mother who adopts. But the hormone stuff is real and makes one wonder if it is affecting us in some way.

There are few things I wish were a little different in the film. I wish they had shown more hospital births where things go well. I would have liked to seen a natural hospital birth, because that is what I plan on doing. I also wish they had spent a little time on how mothers should prepare for a natural birth because I think it definitely takes some preparation. The film was skewed toward midwives, but I think that is understandable because they were trying to show that midwives are an often forgotten option in the US. Everyone knows you can go to an OB and have a hospital birth. This film is trying to show that women actually have more choices than that. And even if you do have an OB at the hospital, you still have choices. The point is that women should be in control, not doctors.

I definitely recommend this film. I was educated and moved. I found it inspiring to watch women give birth naturally and safely. I still plan on having my baby in the hospital. But if this birth goes smoothly, I would certainly consider other options such as a birth center or maybe even home for subsequent births. Midwives are trained professionals who come equipped with many of the tools doctors have in the hospital. I am actually excited for the birth of this baby. I'm excited to see what my body is capable of and to truly experience it all.

I also want to point out that the most important thing is not to have a natural birth, but to have choices. And of course to have a healthy baby. I know many women choose to have epidurals and have no regrets. What concerns me more is all the women I've talked to who are disappointed in their birth experience because of all the interventions. They went into it without knowing much and just went along with hospital protocol. I don't agree with hospitals that pretty much automatically prep everyone for an epidural and pitocin. Laboring on your back in bed is not the best way to get a baby to come out.

What I love about this film is that it shows women that they can have a different birth experience than the one you are likely to get if you walk into a hospital ignorant of your choices.

Any thoughts?

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

coming today


This movie should be waiting in my mailbox in a red Netflix envelope when I get home from work today. I'm so excited to watch it! I'll definitely let you know what I think afterwards. Click here for my previous post about it.